10 Tips for Self-Improvement – Part I
Fortunately, we live in a day and age where not everything is about us. We seek to improve not only our lives, but the lives of others, as well. While this is more commonplace these days, it is still sometimes a struggle to create and maintain this mindset as a way of being rather than return to old habits.
Old habits and patterns are often hard to break. We may wish them away and want to do better and be more, but without practical help and advice along with the creation of new habits, we remain stuck in the same old place. Once we grasp that it is our old thought patterns and beliefs which are keeping us stuck, it becomes much easier to let them go. This is when self improvement work begins to take effect.
If you’re looking to become a better YOU the following ten tips for self improvement will smooth the transition and support you to be well on the way of creating new habits in a short space of time. It is important to remember that change does not take place overnight. Unless of course we are talking about dramatic or traumatic experiences. Most patterns and habits that have taken years to become part of our make up are hardly likely to be shaken off in a couple of days. So be patient and compassionate with yourself but be consistent, determined and steadfast. Also be quite clear about why you want to make those changes. Doing it because of someone else could otherwise just remain a short lived attempt.
Going it alone?
Working on our personal development and self improvement alone is never easy. Someone once said to me, you can only really get to know yourself through other people. I absolutely agree. We are I would say often too involved with ourselves to see things objectively. At least where we are directly concerned. Having said this it might not always be possible to find someone to work with you on your self improvement. A mentor might not be available or self improvement resources such as courses or books out of reach.
These tips are designed to help you get started alone if you don’t have someone else around for the time. It is better to get started than not do anything at all. As the saying goes, the teacher always turns up when the student is ready. Therefore in taking the first step you may well be preparing the way for help and guidance to show up on your self improvement journey.
Ten Self Improvement Strategies – First Focus on You.
1.Take Time for You – While you might associate being a better person with doing more for others, the truth is you need to take time for yourself in order to be that better person. If you are burnt out and stressed, you will not be a positive role model or contribution to anyone. Taking time out for yourself is not selfish; it gives you the opportunity to revitalise, refresh and review your wellbeing.
2.Create Daily Me Time – Once you understand the importance of taking time out for yourself is, it becomes almost like a reward. Looking at it as a task is less appealing. It is a good idea to schedule your “me time” so that it becomes a habit. It is important to keep your integrity to yourself when declaring your “me” time. Set aside some time daily. If you are like most, this may seem near impossible; but guess what? You can find 15 minutes every day.
3.Be Dedicated to Your Personal Time Now – If you don’t respect your personal time, no one else will. Take your 15 minute meditation time in the morning or your daily time out on the front step or the garden just listening to or watching nature; read a spiritual book like Return to Love which will take you a few mere moments every day.
4. Let Others Know You are Serious about Your Personal Time – Once you have an established amount of time and set time of day, let everyone know you have a big, “Do Not Disturb” sign on your back. It’s fifteen minutes a day for goodness sake. Everyone will survive without you for a while.
5. Choose How You Start Your Day – You can choose to start your day grumpy and irritable or you can choose to start your day grateful that you were given another chance to enjoy life and love. The choice is always yours. Choose to wake up declaring out loud a few things you are grateful for and watch how this daily habit changes your day and your life. Here are some other life changing habits
There is a very powerful prayer in A Course in Miracles which you could use to start off your day. It goes “Lord, Where would you have me go, what would you have me do, what would you have me say and to whom?”
Another way to start the day is to ask yourself the following question: if I were to complete ONE task for today which would leave me feeling good and successful at the end of the day what would it be? This could then become your number one priority on your to-do list for that day
6. Start a Gratitude Journal – When you are feeling overwhelmed, grab your journal and write down your feelings – even if they are “negative”. Then, give it a new spin. For example, even though I didn’t get the promotion I wanted, I now know what the process is and what I need to work on to better my chances before I put in for the next promotion. I am exactly where I am supposed to be in this moment and am grateful for the great things to come. Practice being grateful for whatever you have, wherever you are in your life. Maybe you can manage to accept that as in the example above, everything is perfect exactly as it is.
7. Practice Journaling Randomly – Journaling releases negativity and toxicity from your body, soul and mind. However, journaling also resets your mindset. Don’t just fill a journal with negative stuff. If your romantic partner makes you smile or performs a kind gesture, write it down. It will give you something to look at when you miss them or are really mad at them for the moment.
8. Stay Close to Positive People – Your attitude will directly affect your day; so if you are being sour and negative, your day will spiral into a sour and negative day. Keep positive friends close by and reel them in when you need a boost. Don’t be ashamed of your bad moods, just take responsibility for them. Grab a friend, talk about it and then let it go.
9. Keep Negative People out of Your Bubble – You will never rid yourself of all the negative people in your life. After all, some of them are your employers, co-workers and family members. You can, however, keep them at a distance while enclosing yourself in a more protected bubble. You don’t have to let their negativity into your space. Make a choice to slowly distance yourself from them and know that their negativity has nothing to do with you; it’s their stuff so don’t own it for yourself.
10. Choose Your Filters Wisely – Reading negative stories, watching the news and getting involved in gossip, you will most likely end up with negative thoughts. After all, negative stories are what so much of these things focus on these days. Choose what books, music and television you digest. Click here for a choice of music and books to help you be more positive. Stop ‘hanging out’ on social networking gossip sites and take responsibility for your own actions.
If after having read this you feel you would like someone to work with, please feel free to make use of my free coaching session offer.
Alternatively you could check out the following links to find another coach: coachmefree.com, or lifecoachhub.com. or the International Association of Professional Life Coaches.
All the best