Words & their usage
Words, their usage and in fact all things related to linguistics have fascinated me for many years. We are able to learn so much about individuals just by the words they use and the way they use them. This becomes even more interesting when we look at how the same words have different meanings and uses in different languages.
Another thing I love about learning and studying a language is how it enables you to better understand a culture and the people living within that culture. This really makes being in a different country that much richer if you are able to communicate with locals, (and get to know the best places to eat from them and other insider tips!!)
For some years now there are certain words which I have banned as far as possible from my vocabulary and make a conscious effort not to use.
Many people who know me will know that the main one is the word “try”. According to various dictionaries, the meaning of the word is to make an attempt or effort at something, which implies that the actual success of the attempt is absent. So my rationale says the more I try the less successful I am, as I am continuously just making an effort. Does that make sense to you?
So as far as possible, ie whenever I remember, (cause I ain’t perfect), I substitute the word “try” with WILL. This just makes me feel different, like more empowered and ready to do whatever it is I need to do. Give it a go and see if it makes a difference to you!
Another word is “should”. Does your brain also associate this with “pressure”, be it self-imposed or from outside? The implication is that I am forcing myself to do something which I probably am not very enthusiastic about doing. Even if it is the “right” thing to do. If you are enthusiastic about doing something you just do it, right? And do so without adding the “have to” or “should”.
Yes “have to” is another one of those words/phrases.
Watch how you use them
I remember one Christmas many years ago in Germany when many of my colleagues were complaining that they “had to buy a present for XYZ”. According to me, the only thing we have to do is die, everything else is a choice, and giving someone a present at Christmas is certainly something we can choose to do or not. Besides this, if you’re feeling obliged to give someone a gift, maybe the question arises as to whether you really want to or not.
Choose Your Words Wisely
Life is about choices and I am convinced that our choice of words goes a long way in determining the kind of life we live and the events which occur in our lives.
Choosing to consistently use words/expressions such as “I can’t, I don’t have…, I’m sick…., ” will bring you more of that. Focusing on what is “lacking” in your life through your choice of words will effectively bring more of what it is you think you are lacking.
This obviously works in the opposite way too- being grateful for what you have and want to have more of will bring you just that! Give it a go for a couple of weeks and see if you notice a difference. I am guessing you will notice not only a difference in how you feel but also in your attitude.
Here are a few other words you might like to take a look at:
• Spend and Invest. Would you like your bank to spend your money or invest it? When we talk about spending time or money there is an implication that the time or money is no longer there. If you invest (your time and/or money) you get something back.
• What about Problem and Challenge? Which do you feel is more helpful, if your boss sees a mistake as a problem or as a challenge? Problems are fixed; challenges are met. Our attitude or approach when looking at a challenge will likely be more constructive or positive rather than having a problem to put right.
• Your attitude towards your work is likely to be different depending on whether you feel you “work for” or ” work with” someone.
How Words Influence us.
Different words result in you feeling and acting in different ways. Thus the use of certain words and expressions will motivate you, increase self-confidence, and result in a more positive outlook on life. Certain others will encourage and keep you in a negative state of mind, impact your happiness and relationships or keep you from being successful.
Your words have an immense power not only on your thoughts and actions; this power extends to those you interact with. Choose your words wisely!
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